The wedding responsibilities of the best man are rather extensive and it is perhaps fair to say that without them, or indeed picking the wrong person, then the day would become a lot harder than it otherwise should be. They have various jobs to do even before the wedding itself and their different responsibilities are not complete until the happy couple are flying off on their honeymoon.
Perhaps the most well known job before the day itself that is left to the best man is arranging the party for the groom. It should be said that it does not have to be the wildest of parties, but instead it is best to pay particular attention to what the groom likes in order to make it a day to remember rather than a fiasco.
Aside from the party it is their responsibility to accompany the groom when arranging the outfits and making sure that everybody who needs one is measured up accordingly. It is also best if they know in advance who all of the main people are as it is often their job to ensure any hotel rooms are booked in advance should they be required.
On the day itself it is down to the best man to make sure that the groom, and every other guy involved in some way, is ready on time and is at wherever the ceremony is taking place early. During the ceremony part they have to stand beside the groom and their main role with this section is to hold the ring for the bride and then hand it over at the correct moment. One important point to make is that they must know exactly where it is to stop there being any nervous moments as they search through their pockets. They should always know when that moment is due to them having been to rehearsals with all of the main players.
Once the ceremony is complete the best man is responsible for being one of the witnesses on the marriage license, along with the maid of honor. Apart from this it is their responsibility to hand over the sealed envelope with the fee inside for the person who carried out the ceremony and this should be carried with them throughout the day.
At the reception there will be the inevitable speech to be made, which is often the most nerve wracking part of the job, and it is also their responsibility to really be the life and soul of the party. This often involves dancing with various key people including the bride and maid of honor and basically then making sure that the groom has everything he needs and that everyone is enjoying themselves. In some areas people will bring envelopes for the happy couple and it is up to the best man to not only collect them, but also make sure that they are safe. If they contain money it can either be handed to the groom or they may be asked to put it in a bank account on another day.
As the bride and groom dance away the evening it is up to the best man to sneak away and add a few personal touches to the car that will drive the happy couple away from the reception. This is a fun job to do and how it is dressed is only limited to the imagination, although clearly it has to be tasteful and not too over the top.
One of the final roles that the best man has to play is in helping the happy couple get ready for their honeymoon and it is quite common for them to be the one that drives them to the airport. Once this is done all that is left to do is ensure all of the outfits that were hired are returned, and of course that they are complete, and finally check that any other requests left by the groom have been fulfilled.
So those are perhaps the key wedding responsibilities of the best man for a wedding and it does show that they are an integral part of not just the day itself, but also the lead up to it. This is why choosing the right person is imperative as they are the glue that can hold the day together when issues arise that threaten to derail what should be a fantastic day for the bride and groom.